
Hey Guys. Today I am not going to be reviewing any book or movie nor am I going to do a tag. Today I am going to be talking about a really serious topic- Sexual Harassment. I am glad and grateful that I have a voice in this massive internet, and I intend to use it.
Trigger Warning: Rape, Sexual Assault and physical assault
Sexual harassment and rape is a really really vicious thing to do. My heart aches every time I hear a piece of news of rape. And recently, when we should be supporting each other, this has been increasing even more.
On 14th September, a girl in the district of Hathras, Uttar Pradesh, India was brutally assaulted as she fought against being raped. She was dragged away by her dupatta injuring her spinal cord, leaving her paralyzed. The accused tried to strangulate her as she resisted their rape attempt. The girl finally died on 29th September. When the news initially broke out, it was called fake.
This incident provoked me to write this post.
According to a recent news study, a woman is raped every 16 minutes in India. This is after almost eight years after the terrible Nirbhaya case. Even though the rapists and murderers of Jyoti Singh were hanged to death, that didn’t instill fear in everyone. What is the reason for this? Those monsters were given to the hands of death eight years after the crime happened. And thanks to the justice system in India, they were hanged to death. Hanging is the least painful form of death. This makes me feel that the men weren’t tortured enough.
For those who do not know, the Jyoti Singh rape case famously known as Nirbhaya took place on 16 December 2012 in Delhi. Jyoti was gang raped, beaten and tortured in a private bus wherein she was travelling with a male friend. A medical report later said that she suffered serious injuries to her abdomen, intestines and genitals due to the assault, and doctors said that the damage indicated that a blunt object (suspected to be the iron rod) may have been used for penetration. That rod was later described by police as being a rusted, L-shaped implement of the type used as a wheel jack handle .According to police reports Jyoti attempted to fight off her assailants, biting three of the attackers and leaving bite marks on the accused men. After the beatings and rape ended, the attackers threw both victims from the moving bus. She was found with injury marks, including numerous bite marks, all over her body. According to reports, one of the accused men admitted to having seen a rope-like object, assumed to be her intestines, being pulled out of the woman by the other assailants on the bus.
This is what man is. Such a dirty, disgusting monster.
While researching for this post, I found quite some shocking cases. I was disgusted and nauseated and to be honest, scared. Here is a brief account of the cases:
1.The Aruna Shanbaug Rape Case: Aruna was a nurse who was raped by a sweeper, Sohanlal Bhartha. During the rape, Sohanlal choked Shanbaug with a dog chain – causing permanent brain damage. Shanbaug was kept in a vegetative state for over 40 years and finally died due to pneumonia. Sohanlal on the other hand was a free man after serving his sentence.
2. The Priyadarshini Mattoo case: Priyadarshini was raped and murdered by Santosh Kumar at her own house in 1996. The trial case cleared Kumar but due to media pressure he was sentenced to death.
3. The Imrana Rape Case: Imrana was raped by her father-in-law in 2005. The village panchayat treated it as a case of adultery and not rape. They also ordered Imrana to leave her husband and marry her father-in-law. Just imagine that. Someone asks you to leave a man you love and marry another man twice your age against your will. However, after media attention, her father-in-law got sentenced to 10 years of imprisonment.
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And the funny thing is that they do not stop here. A man raped 4-month-old baby. 90-year-old women are being raped. For god’s sake animals are being raped!!!! This is what humans have fallen to. I feel disgusted after reading such things and if you don’t then I don’t know what sort of monster are you.
Many people seem to believe that women are raped because they travel late at night or wear short clothes and so on. Women who wear salwar kameez and a burkha are raped. Women are raped in broad daylight.
People also seem to believe that a woman lets herself get raped. Are you kidding me?!?!!!! Did a 4 month old baby let herself be raped? She was defenseless for god’s sake. Men are physically stronger than women and that is a fact. But that does not mean that they use it against women.
I know I have highlighted rape of women more than I have highlighted than that of men. I know men get raped too, but it is much much less common than women. They are suffering too but it becomes difficult for them to even talk about rape. According to a survey, 1 out of every 5 males is assaulted or molested in India.
I have seen some people say that some girl deserves to be raped. Okay first off who are you to even say that? Second off, no woman, I repeat, no woman deserves to undergo that sort of torture. Nothing can justify rape.
When I decided to do this post, I decided to take the opinions of a few other girls. Let’s see what they are:
The worst attitude I’ve ever encountered is accepting something wrong being done to you as normal.If a girl feels conscious wearing something out of the fear of being touched or groped, everyone tells her that “men won’t change but you should still wear that” , it is still a completely WRONG attitude and people fail to understand that. Men SHOULD change. They HAVE to change.
-Rhea Sharma
We deserve better. We should be able to walk talk wear whatever we want freely without even a second thought in the back of our minds that WE are in the wrong. We have to stop considering the men will be men attitude to be normal. Its not.
Parents of a girl child name her with happiness, pride and a lot of hopes, not to listen to her name as a victim of a brutal rape case and wait for slow justice, not even expecting her to face such pains and an untimely and certainly an undeserved death. People you don’t even know how much courage, faith, hardships and pains are taken to bring that daughter to this world, and you kill her and kill all this in an instant? All her dreams and her parents’ dreams in a moment just to pleasure yourself? Really? Why are people becoming these violent sex maniacs? Question yourselves and the society is this where we really want to live?
-Riya Mehta
The fact that you are removing yourself from discussions about the oppression of women with your favourite “not all men” slogan means that you ARE part of the problem. You want to exempt yourself from how the patriarchal society treats women, and just because you have never assaulted a woman, does not mean you have not propagated the patriarchy or rape culture.
-Aahana Sujnani
The worst thing about rape is that society has the mentality to BLAME THE VICTIM. Of COURSE she must have done something or the other to lure the man into RAPING her right? Why wouldn’t she enjoy it? If the man is enjoying it, SO SHOULD SHE. She must have said something, worn something, or done something provocative. after all, men will be men. If you didn’t want it, you shouldn’t have worn that.
-Aashita Miglani
One of the top counters to the topic of rape is that “Not all men are rapists”. I came across a very apt answer to this in an article, “ALL WOMEN ARE AFRAID OF BEING RAPED”. And that is something we as a society must fix.
Rape is NEVER the girl’s fault. How she dresses or how she ‘seems’ is never because she was asking for it. It’s always the man’s fault so I feel it is wrong to blame a girl for being herself.
-Anoushka Bhatha
Rape is the fourth most common crime against women in India. A case is reported every 16 mins and then there are several cases which go unreported. The justice system isn’t harsh enough on these people and it needs to be.
That’s all I have to say today. I hope you learnt something from this post and I hope it had a positive effect on you. Let me know your views in the comments.
Let’s fight rape together!
SAY NO TO RAPE!!
Edit: Recently, the famed cricketer, Mahendra Singh Dhoni hasn’t been performing well. One of his ‘fans’ has threatened to rape his five-year-old daughter, just because he hasn’t been performing well. Here’s a screenshot of the message.
This is what people have fallen to. Rape threats over a player’s bad performance. A player who is 40 years old. What. The. Hell.
Very well noted and jotted @whisperingstories …This post gave me goosebumps…
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Thanks for reading!
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Ohh! My gosh what is this? Riddhi seems like you are an interesting guy with good knowledge. And one thing you are from India?
~ Adarsh@ Teenage Blogger
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Hey Adarsh, thanks first of all! And yep, I am from India!
P.S.- I am a gal, not a guy :p
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Ok! Ok! I admit it is my mistake. Fine!
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Uhhh….
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BTW what about Collab ? Riddhi. What a nice and funny name you have my younger sister’s name is also the same. 😅 and i filled your form too.. But i didn’t get any reply from you.
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I haven’t received any email….
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Done! I’ve sent you.
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This is the sad and heartbreaking truth. We all need to speak up
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True..
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This is such a serious issue and I’m so glad you used your platform to talk about it. These days it’s so scary just to be a woman. I know also that this is a crime that is rarely taken seriously in South Asian countries, the justice system is so corrupt. Have you ever heard of the Gulabi Gang? I’m so proud of these woman banning together and fighting against the injustices against woman in India. I watched a movie about them and its so inspiring!
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I totally agree! The justice system is corrupt and it is something that needs to be worked upon. I haven’t heard about the Gulabi Gang but I will certainly read about them. Can you tell me the name of the movie please? If possible I will try and watch it!
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Sad but bitter truth……..
This is heart-breaking……..
Glad you took this topic up!
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Reblogged this on Eclectic Erin.
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What horrible violence to exist in. We are your mothers, your sisters, learn respect and treat respectfully. Talk about courage to just live ones life.
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True….
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https://amyshedrack200.Wordpress.com/2020/08/2/why-should-we-talk-about-rape
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Well written 👍…and it really aches my heart…men are really very cruel and inhuman…😔😔
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True, but it is the sad truth of today
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Yess…u r absolutely right 🤦🤦😔😔
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This is shocking, you just cannot believe that people can act in such a way to another human being. They are just vile. Thank you for this enlightening piece.
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I know right. It was really difficult for me to write this, but it had to be done- for the greater good.
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This is so sad and heartbreaking – we really need to make better choices 💔
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These are such sad situations!
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I know.
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Thanks I will check it out!
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This was very uncomfortable to read (to be true). Your words were creating imaginations.
Can’t tell how scared I am sometimes when I hear these types of headlines.
Only if there were Workshops held for boys (and girls) regarding ABUSE and CONSENT, the situation would had been much better.
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True.
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I’m back after few more days….again reading this post!
And as a suggestion they should had been burned to death considered as the most painful death. Or if not take them to the public and hand the public some stones…..(the best one in my sight)
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According to me they should starve them and inject insulin in their bodies- a famous system in some country, I don’t remember- that is excruciatingly painful
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Thanks for writing this and standing up against rape…so important! Any word is awesome. It’s always great to get your voice out there and heard.
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True. Thank you for reading and commenting.
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This post has left me in tears. How can someone do such a disgusting thing!? The rules people have made especially for women have to change. They have to understand whatever they’re doing is UNFAIR! They have to make better rules so that rape can stop. The society has to change, people have to change!
You are doing a great job raising your voice against this, Riddhi!
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Yes, indeed that is true.
Thanks Roshni!
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You’re welcome 🙂
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Thank you for writing this ! It definitely helps oblivious people see part of the reality….. I also wrote my story here https://sexualrape.wordpress.com
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🙂
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I know you wrote this a while ago, but I wanted to say thank you so much for bringing attention to this topic. It’s so horrible how often this happens, and how so many people blame the VICTIMS. No one ASKS to be raped. It’s heartbreaking but truth and again, thank you for speaking up about this.
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It is a terrible thing indeed!!
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I am so glad you decided to speak out on this! this was so heartbreaking to read. my heart goes out for all the victims ❤
the saying "not all men" disgusts me so much.
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Yess, same
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I am so glad you talked about rape and sexual assault people need to be educated about this important topic.
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Truee
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I am so glad you decided to speak out on this! People need to know about this. We have to stop things like this. Hats off to you Riddhi!
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Yes true!
Thanks Srishti!
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Thank you for sharing this post. It’s a topic that not enough people talk about, and I feel like nowhere punishes rapists the way the deserve. My heart goes out to these women and their families, and all the women around the world, as well as the men who have experienced rape as well. No one deserves this.
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True that…
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My goodness, I’m SO angry right now after reading this post. Not at you, Riddhi, because it was brave of you to write and post about this, but simply at the utter depravity of mankind. It’s hard to put words together after reading this, but UGH. Those men seriously belong in the deepest pits of Hell and nowhere else.
Have you considered putting together a post on how the average person can help support organizations that are fighting these human rights violations and how we can spread awareness and educate other people when it comes to rape? I wanted to ask if I could repost your post on my blog, but I think it would be a little too jarring based on what I’ve posted so far.
I want to get involved. I want to DO SOMETHING to help so bad, you know? And you already did help. It won’t undo any part of history, but it did speak the ugly truth loud and clear. I commend you for that. ❤
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Hi Lily, thanks so much for commenting!
That’s true, these men belong nowhere else but hell- but I also feel like death’s too easy of an option for them- I read somewhere that they could be used instead of animals for product testing, and I was like- YES.
That’s actually an excellent post idea, and I’ll definitely try to put something like that out.
And sure, if you do ever want to repost it, please feel free to do so!
And I get that urge- I feel like I haven’t done anything either. But thank you so much for your lovely, kind words!
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I agree. I don’t know what punishment I would set for them, but I’d probably say a life sentence (or a hundred life sentences, if only that were possible…). Let them suffer in life instead of being able to find escape so soon through death.
Oh, wonderful! I’m looking forward to that! 🙂 Goodness, you’ve done a lot!! Keep speaking truth to power. ❤
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Yeah, true!
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